Mum Guilt, Rage & Why It Feels So Heavy with Multiples

Most mothers of multiples grapple with the unspoken weight of mum guilt—and here’s why that feeling might actually be a sign you’re doing a better job than you think.

In this episode, we’re getting really honest about mum guilt, mum rage, and the mental load of raising multiples — because wow, it’s a lot.

We talk about the parts no one really says out loud: the overwhelm, the overstimulation, the moments where you feel like you’re being pulled in a million directions and still somehow not doing enough.

Sinead shares what it’s been like grieving the version of motherhood she imagined before twins — and how she’s learning to make peace with what it actually looks like. Gabi opens up about juggling a toddler and newborn twins, the guilt that comes with feeling split between them, and the emotional load of trying to be everything to everyone.

In this ep, we chat about:

• Mum guilt with multiples
• Those moments where mum rage sneaks in (and you’re like… where did that come from?)
• The version of motherhood we thought we’d have versus what it actually looks like
• The mental load of multiples and why it can feel so relentless
• Trying (and often failing) to find a bit of space for ourselves
• Why talking about this stuff out loud actually helps

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or like you’re not quite getting it right — this one is for you.

Because honestly? Most days we’re not thriving — we’re surviving. And that’s more than enough.

Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples.

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