8. How single Dads can setup a home where kids thrive - Home Game

When life is already busy, a little friction at home can quickly add up. For single dad Matt Harbour, creating a home where his kids feel safe, settled and loved is something he approaches with intention. His “Home Game” framework starts with a simple question: what do you want it to feel like for your kids to be at Dad’s place?

Because a calm, connected home isn’t about having everything perfect. It’s about creating an environment where your kids can relax, feel like Dad’s got things handled, and know that they belong.

Matt Harbour is a single dad of three who has worked in divorce coaching, particularly supporting men navigating separation and the transition to single fatherhood. 

In this episode, Matt shares:

• How to create a home where your kids feel safe, settled and like Dad has things handled.
• Reducing the everyday friction that gets in the way of being present with your kids. 
• Setting up your home so kids can find what they need and become more independent. 
• Using routines and rituals to create familiarity, connection and stability. 
• Protecting your kids from adult conflict and stress inside the home. 
• Where to start when you’re setting up a new home as a single Dad. 
• Keeping things simple and affordable when organisation doesn’t come naturally. 
• Creating spaces around what your kids actually need as they grow. 
• Maintaining connection with your kids when they’re staying with their other parent.

KEY QUOTES

“So if I wasn't on top of things and organized, it'd create friction, and the more friction I found I had in trying to run the home, the less presence I had with the kids.”

“I feel like being a dad, I'm the lighthouse, right? I'm the lighthouse on the rock, and no matter what comes from outside, whatever waves and weather crashes over the lighthouse, I'm still standing there looking out for them all the time.”

“I think just keep it simple and start with what's best for the kids and what's best for my wellbeing.”

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