493 - Why Am I Like This? Sabrina Zohar on the Patterns Running Your Life

You've probably caught yourself asking it. Why am I like this?!

Usually not in a kind voice. Usually at the end of a long day, after you reacted in a way you don't love and can't quite explain.

Here's what Sabrina Zohar gets at: the thing you've been calling your personality (I'm just type A, I'm just controlling, I'm just too much) is often a pattern you learned a long time ago, running on autopilot.

Sabrina is the host of The Sabrina Zohar Show and the author of a new book, Why Am I Like This? She's built a huge following teaching people to understand the patterns driving their relationships, their work, and the way they react when they're activated.

We get into two questions she says changed her life: how old do I feel, and where did I learn this. We talk about why the safe, healthy relationship can feel flat and boring (and the actual neuroscience of why). And we talk about boundaries and resentment in a way that doesn't make you the villain or the martyr.

This one is for you if you've ever watched yourself overreact and thought, I know better than this, so why do I keep doing it.

What You'll Learn:

• The two questions to ask the moment you feel yourself react, that turn a blowup into information
• Why a calm, consistent relationship can feel weirdly boring, and what your nervous system is actually doing
• What a boundary really is (it's not a rule you hand the other person), and how the lack of one turns into resentment
• How to tell your real intuition apart from an old wound wearing its clothes

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