How to Find Peace When a Relationship Can't Be Fixed with Matthias Barker (Live from the Transform Trauma Conference)

What happens when the mental health expert becomes the one navigating a family crisis?

In this deep and deeply personal conversation, therapist and author Matthias Barker sits down with Miles at the Transform Trauma Conference –– Europe’s largest mental health and wellness conference in Oxford, England –– to open up about his own journey through family estrangement, grief, and reconciliation.  

Together, they break down the real-world stuff we all deal with: why healing must come before forgiveness, the difference between setting a healthy boundary and running away, the traps of modern pop psychology, and what it actually takes to find "peace with what's possible."

Whether you're a mental health professional or just trying to navigate your own family system, this conversation offers real tools for real life.

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Episode Chapters: 

00:00 - Welcome to Human School... LIVE!

01:45 - Meet Matthias Barker: From drama kid to building a platform

05:00 - The Family Crisis: Addiction, divorce, and estrangement

07:00 - Learning from Grief Expert David Kessler

11:00 - The Intersection of Trauma and Grief in Family Conflict

15:30 - Peace with What’s Possible: Rethinking reconciliation

26:30 - The Research on Contempt and Emotional Abuse

31:30 - Boundaries vs. Avoidance: When to engage and when to step back

39:30 - The Danger of Pop Psychology and Weaponized Therapy Speak

49:30 - The Trap of Rumination vs. True Psychological Healing

55:30 - The Hardest and Most Meaningful Parts of Being a Helper

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