Rebuilding After Betrayal: Infidelity, Codependency, and Radical Ownership with Carl & Laura Lentz

How do you rebuild your life after the crushing wreckage of betrayal? In this powerful episode of Human School, Miles Adcox sits down with Carl and Laura Lentz to explore the raw reality of surviving infidelity, breaking free from codependency, and choosing radical personal ownership when your world falls apart. 

What You'll Learn: 

• The profound, isolating loneliness of betrayal trauma and why finding safe, grounded support changes everything. 

• How to break the cycle of codependency by choosing your own healing and health, regardless of your partner's choices. 

• The critical psychological difference between staying trapped in the comfortable hiding place of shame versus taking total personal accountability. 

• Practical emotional tools for managing triggers, shortening repair times after conflict, and navigating gut-wrenching family conversations with your children.

   

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome Carl & Laura Lentz

00:46 The Reality of Healing After Infidelity

07:05 Choosing Ownership Over Shame

15:47 The Loneliness of Betrayal

21:51 Seeking Help & Finding Hope

37:02 The Decision to Stay and Fight

42:18 Forgiveness vs. Safety

51:00 Eradicating Shame

1:15:58 Navigating Triggers & Practical Tools

1:31:32 Looking Back & Words of Wisdom

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