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Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

Why Your Teen Triggers You (and How to Break the Cycle) | Eli Harwood

45 min•3 augusti 2026
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Why does your teen trigger you so fast? One eye roll, one tone, and suddenly you're reacting in ways you swore you never would. It's easy to focus on changing your teen's behavior. But many of us carry wounds from our own childhood that shape how we respond to conflict, criticism, and connection with our teens.

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In this episode, I sit down with Eli Harwood, a licensed therapist, attachment expert, and bestselling author known as Attachment Nerd. We talk about how generational trauma repeats itself in families, why secure attachment doesn't require perfect parenting, and how balancing softness with sturdiness helps teens grow into confident, independent adults.

The good news: you don't have to get it right every time. You have to be willing to repair.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

  • How wounds from your own childhood show up when your teen triggers you
  • Why secure attachment comes from softness and sturdiness, not perfection
  • Why you only need to get it right some of the time
  • How to repair after you lose it, and why the U-turn matters
  • How to stop repeating generational patterns, and where to find support

EPISODE CHAPTERS

  • 00:00 What attachment means for parents of teens
  • 02:58 Why we have to deal with our own stuff
  • 06:05 Letting go of shame in parenting
  • 08:58 When parents lean on teens for their emotional needs
  • 12:00 Hearing feedback from your teen
  • 14:59 How defensiveness hurts the relationship
  • 17:57 Building trust with your teen
  • 22:09 How to respond instead of react
  • 24:37 Why teens need both structure and nurture
  • 26:56 Keeping trust and connection strong
  • 29:12 Understanding teen development
  • 32:22 Embracing the messiness of adolescence
  • 34:51 Why parents need community
  • 37:12 Finding support and healing
  • 39:11 The power of connection and attachment

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ABOUT THE SHOW

Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam is hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach. Each episode gives you practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insight to build a stronger relationship with your teen.

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