How to Help Your Teen Daughter Through Friendship Drama

Is your daughter coming home hurt, left out, or caught in friendship drama? It's one of the hardest things to watch, and every instinct tells us to jump in and fix it.

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Fiona Ghiglione, an assistant professor, research psychologist, and founder of Mothering Girls. We talk about why girl friendships get so hard in middle school, how to tell normal conflict from toxic behavior, and what to do, step by step, when your daughter comes home upset.

Dr. Fiona's advice for parents: don't join the storm. When we stay calm and listen without taking sides, our daughters learn to handle friendship struggles with confidence, and keep coming to us.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• Why friendships get so hard in middle school, and what's driving more meanness between girls
• The "seasons" of friendships, and how to tell normal conflict from toxic behavior
• What to do, step by step, when your daughter comes home upset
• Quick comebacks and exit strategies for mean behavior
• Why widening her circle of friends protects her self-esteem
• What to do if your daughter is the one being mean

EPISODE CHAPTERS

• 00:00 Why girl friendships are so hard
• 01:02 How Mothering Girls began
• 03:50 Why fear makes the teen years harder
• 05:05 Why friendships get harder in middle school
• 06:56 Where meanness between girls comes from
• 07:54 The seasons of friendships
• 10:19 Why bullying comes from a need to belong
• 11:26 What to do when friends turn on your daughter
• 14:51 Helping your daughter not blame herself
• 17:07 Should you try to make your daughter more likable?
• 18:14 Focusing on connection, not popularity
• 20:16 Step by step: when your daughter comes home upset
• 22:12 Why you shouldn't take sides
• 24:25 What if your daughter is the mean one?
• 26:45 Helping girls calm big emotions
• 27:39 Don't join the storm

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Free download: 10 Mindful Practices for Preteens
• Dr. Fiona's friendship journal for girls
• €20 off your first mentoring session: email [email protected]

CONNECT WITH DR. FIONA GHIGLIONE

• Website: MotheringGirls.com
• Instagram: @motheringgirls
• LinkedIn: Dr. Fiona Ghiglione

CONNECT WITH DR. CAM CASWELL

• Website: AskDrCam.com
• Instagram: @DrCamCaswell
• Parenting Teens Academy

ABOUT THE SHOW

Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam is hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach. Each episode gives you practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insight to build a stronger relationship with your teen.

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