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Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

How Strict Should You Be With Your Teen? What the Research Says

39 min•20 maj 2025
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If setting boundaries with your teen feels like trying to nail Jell-O to a wall, you're not alone. And if you've ever asked yourself, "Am I being too strict? Too lenient?" this episode is your answer.

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In this episode, I sit down with social scientist Matilda Gosling, author of Teenagers: The Evidence Base, to talk about what the research says about setting boundaries that work. Matilda brings both the data and the empathy, helping parents understand where to draw the line, when to back off, and how to protect their teen while preparing them for the real world.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

  • Why boundaries help teens feel safe, not smothered
  • How to focus on the rules that matter, like health, safety, and well-being, and let go of the small battles
  • Why explaining the "why" works better than dictating
  • Why respecting your teen's privacy builds openness, and snooping leads to secrets
  • How to set your own boundaries as a parent without feeling guilty

EPISODE CHAPTERS

  • 00:00 Understanding boundaries with teens
  • 02:59 Why independence matters
  • 05:48 Boundaries vs. rules
  • 09:04 Negotiating boundaries with your teen
  • 12:02 Common mistakes parents make
  • 15:02 The problem with "safetyism"
  • 18:08 Respecting your teen's privacy
  • 20:56 Which boundaries matter most
  • 23:46 Setting your own boundaries as a parent
  • 27:06 Why modeling matters
  • 29:57 Handling big emotional reactions
  • 32:49 Final thoughts on boundaries

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ABOUT THE SHOW

Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam is hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach. Each episode gives you practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insight to build a stronger relationship with your teen.

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