How to Make Friends as an Adult, Solved

Friendship is the most important thing nobody talks about. From ancient philosophy to game theory, we break down why friendship isn’t just some social nicety—it’s a biological survival strategy. Plus: the modern forces slowly strangling our ability to connect, and exactly what to do about it. You’ll walk away with a clearer sense of what real friendship looks like, how to build it, and how to stop shooting yourself in the foot every time you try.

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Chapters:

00:04:44 CHAPTER 1: Reframing Resilience — Definitions & Misconceptions

00:23:50 CHAPTER 2: Developmental and Biological Foundations of Resilience

00:38:54 CHAPTER 3: Biological & Physiological Foundations

01:17:17 CHAPTER 4: Psychological, Philosophical & Evidence-Based Frameworks

02:27:00 CHAPTER 5: Sociocultural & Community Dimensions

02:57:28 CHAPTER 6: The 80/20 of Becoming More Resilient

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