The Self-Improvement Paradox: When Trying to Get Better Feels Worse

What do you do when trying to improve your life makes you feel worse? What if trying to be better comes across as ‘try-hard’? What if setting more goals is just your way of avoiding your own bullshit?

This is the topic of discussion in today’s episode, “The Self-Improvement Paradox”—or in other words, why sometimes trying to be better makes you feel worse. It turns out improving yourself is nuanced and complicated.

Who would have thought?

Check it out.

CHAPTERS

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction
• 00:01:37 Question #1: When is improving yourself being try-hard?
• 00:10:35 Question #2: How do you balance improving yourself with accepting yourself?
• 00:20:14 Question #3: Is too much self-esteem really that big of a problem?

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