34. It took us four years to feel OK again after becoming parents

What if your relationship doesn’t ‘bounce back’ after the baby? What if it actually takes years?

In this Mums Talk episode, I sit down with my friend Sophie Jane Hardy - writer, coach and host of the Menstruality Podcast, to talk about the unspoken parts of motherhood and how long it can take to feel like you again.

We talk about:

• Sophie’s four-year journey to rebuild her relationship after becoming parents
• The grief and rage underneath infertility, birth that didn’t go to plan and letting go of the version of motherhood you’d imagined
• The invisible mental load and the surrender that nobody prepares you for
• The moment Sophie realised she had to stop trying to control everything and trust her partner’s way of parenting too
• Why nervous system care is the real work, and how we find our way back to ourselves (and each other)

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this feel so hard?” this one is for you.

Want to connect with Sophie?

• Sophie’s website: https://www.sophiejanehardy.com
• Instagram: @sophie.jane.hardy
• Menstruality Podcast: https://www.redschool.net/podcast 

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