57. I ended my 10-Year relationship: The guilt of separating with a child

What happens when you know ending your relationship is the right decision, but you’re terrified of what it could mean for your child?

In this deeply personal episode, I share something I hadn’t planned to say publicly: after ten and a half years together, I ended my relationship with the father of my son.

I talk honestly about the months I spent questioning the decision, the pressure to keep a family together “for the sake of the child”, and the guilt that can make you wonder whether every difficult moment in your child’s behaviour is somehow your fault. I also share what an unexpected tarot reading gave me at a time when I needed reassurance, peace and a sense of closure.

This isn’t an episode about having all the answers. It’s an honest share about separation, becoming a single mum, learning to co-parent while still living together, and trying to trust a life-changing decision when your child’s future is involved.

Most of all, it’s a reminder of why mums need somewhere they can speak without being judged, fixed or given advice they didn’t ask for. Sometimes being heard is what helps us begin to process the things that have been sitting inside us.

If you’re going through a separation, questioning your relationship or carrying something you don’t feel ready to say out loud, you are not alone.

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