Episode 110: Parenting the Spicy Kid with Mary Van Geffen

What does it really mean to parent a “spicy” kid? In this episode, Rachael sits down with parenting expert and author Mary Van Geffen to talk about strong-willed, sensitive, and neurodivergent children and what parents can do when everyday parenting feels especially challenging.

Together, they discuss emotional regulation, parenting shame, boundaries, meltdowns, bedtime struggles, and the importance of doing our own inner work. Mary shares practical tools and compassionate strategies for staying connected to your child while also learning how to regulate yourself, repair after hard moments, and parent with more confidence.

Inside this episode:

• What makes a child “spicy” and how to understand their unique temperament
• Why parental self-regulation is one of the most important parenting tools
• How childhood experiences can shape the way we parent
• Navigating neurodivergence, diagnosis, and finding the right support
• Practical strategies for managing meltdowns, tantrums, and big emotions
• How routine, predictability, and connection can help sensitive kids thrive 
• Setting firm boundaries while staying kind and connect 
• The role of self-compassion, repair, and doing your own inner work
• And so much more!

Mentioned in this episode:

• Parenting a Spicy One by Mary Van Geffen
• Mary Van Geffen on Instagram
• Mary Van Geffen on TikTok

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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.

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