121: Why Can't I Stay Consistent? The Missing Piece to Lasting Change

You're not consistent, not because you lack willpower, but because you think you need to be fixed.

When we look at the science of motivation and the incredible impact self-compassion has on our likelihood of moving toward our goals, the first sentence takes on a much more profound meaning.

So let's unpack that together:
🌟Understand what's really driving your inconsistency and resistance.
🌟Learn how to make change feel easier by connecting to what truly matters to you 
🌟Discover a simple framework to create lasting habits from self-care, not self-criticism.

 If you keep wondering, "Why can't I just stick with it?", I made this episode for you. 💛 

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Questions from this episode:
(Listen to full episode for more context!)

1. What might I gain when I do that thing?
2. Why is that important to me?
3. How might this positively impact those around me?

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Resources:

The Neuroscience of Goals and Behavior Change - Elliot T Berkman

Being Compassionate to Oneself Is Associated with Emotional Resilience and Psychological Well-Being - Rick Warren, Elke Smeets & Kristin Neff 

The Power of Self-Compassionate Motivation - Kristin Neff

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.