The Dance Nobody Chose But Both Keep Dancing

There is a cycle running in your relationship. The more you reach, the more they pull back. The more they pull back, the more urgently you reach. Neither of you chose it. Both of you are running it. This episode maps the anxious-avoidant cycle step by step, explains what is happening in each partner's nervous system, and makes the case that a cycle both people run is a cycle both people can change.