The Fixer

In this conversation, Krishna explores the concept of the 'Fixer' within individuals, discussing the subconscious programs that drive this behavior, the origins of these patterns, and their impact on relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of Self energy within the framework of IFS (Internal Family Systems): presence, care, compassion, and stillness to update the need to fix others as a survival strategy for creating safety.

The Fixer often feels the need to solve problems for others to earn love and acceptance but also to create safety and protect the part that feels that stillness is not safe.

Being present without fixing can feel uncomfortable.

The subconscious programs of the fixer are rooted in survival.
The fixer often equates their value with their usefulness.
Helplessness is perceived by the fixer as a threat.

The origins of the Fixer often stem from childhood experiences.
Self-energy is crucial for the Fixer to feel safe and supported.
Updating subconscious beliefs can change the urgency to fix.
Practicing presence can deepen relationships and increase connection. Presence is more available when we are not trying to fix.


Chapters

00:00 Understanding the Fixer Within
02:54 The Subconscious Programs of the Fixer
05:54 The Origins of the Fixer
09:06 The Impact of the Fixer on Relationships
12:11 The Role of Self Energy
14:57 Updating Subconscious Beliefs
17:49 Practicing Presence and Stillness
21:02 The Journey Towards Self-Acceptance

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