How to *Finally* Stop Caring What Other People Think of You

You are not one person. You are your parents' version, your best friend's version, your coworker's version, and none of them fully capture who you are. So why are you spending your entire twenties trying to control something that was never actually controllable?

In this episode, I am getting into why we take things so personally, from evolutionary wiring to childhood conditioning to the stories different cultures teach us about our own worth. We are talking about the difference between defending your identity and defending your ego, the blue hair theory, and the LET THEM mindset that changed how I move through the world. This is the detox of finally letting people misunderstand you.

This one is for you if you replay conversations for days, if you have ever assumed someone disliked you over one look, or if you are ready to stop managing everyone else's perception of you.

in this video…

00:30 introduction

03:33 greece story + we're caring for unlikely reasons

07:37 how this is damaging relationships

09:29 we care because we're trying to protect our identity

10:08 cultural, psychological + environmental factors

12:07 evolutionary factors

13:33 the danger of seeking approval in your 20s

14:43 high school experience + blue hair theory16:60 recap!

18:57 people in your close circle

20:55 life is too precious to live it for others

22:20 next steps!

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