69: Parenthood, Personal Power & the Myth of the Perfect Self - A Raw Conversation with Matt Lavars

What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself?

In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility.

Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone navigating your own inner work - this one will stay with you.

We explore:

• How parenthood becomes a mirror for your deepest unresolved wounds
• The pressure of modern self-development culture and the danger of victim labels
• What true self-care looks like (hint: it’s not bubble baths and Bali)
• Why compassion, not perfection, is the highest goal in personal growth
• Tangible advice on emotional attunement, relationships, and breaking the fantasy of “having it all together”

This episode is a grounding, perspective-shifting invitation to stop waiting for healing to be easy, and start listening more deeply to yourself.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.