Ep 136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactions

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Most of us stay stuck in the surface layer of our reactions—anger, withdrawal, blame, shutdown. But those aren’t the real issue.

In this episode, I walk you through one of my own recent triggers and share the emotional layers I uncovered underneath. You’ll learn how to recognize what’s really going on inside a reaction, and how to move through it in a way that actually shifts the pattern.

This is the work that makes deeper love and connection possible.

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Check out these related episodes:

Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it’s running your inner work

Ep110: Making suffering your ally

Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds

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